ok, for everyone reading this later, we troubleshooted a few issues:
A config for 0.9 motors was used (while @Jakob is using 1.8 degree motors with lower current rating), so the motor current for all axes needed to be reduced The adjustments for the homing moves (stallguard sensitivity, full_steps_per_rev and motor current reductions) were also tuned for the 0.9 motors and needed adjusting.Once we changed these things, the motors homed successfully.