The connector looks like a Molex microfit 3 (?).
I use the Molex tool HT60923A aka 0011030043. It's easy to remove once you get the technique, inserting from the front on the right and left sides of the pin and on each side, rotate it a little back and forth to release the pin. It works for both male and female Microfit 3.
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