Seems like just a config issue on my part, crazy right? somehow a e2 heater got uncommented because it was connected to a chamber light so it turned on (was never on before!), then the config-override had 1.0 as the PWM which i never looked at and i did delete but i restored from a backup as i messed something up and completely forgot.... it was a long day. everything appears to work fine now.
However, i did get the panasonic SSR anyway as the omeron is out of stock (probably because people are building vorons). i figured the other one is fine as it's rated for 40A. (probably not but it might at least be 10A).